Toby Turner rape allegations and the problem with the phrase 'rape culture'

Toby Turner AKA Tobuscus is currently being accused with rape and rape it makes people angry. Why wouldn't it, it's a disgusting vile thing. Here's the thing though, why are people assuming the YouTuber Toby Turner is guilty or innocent for that matter? Firstly April Skywalker one of the people accusing him of rape she wrote a post on Tumblr about Toby, it's about Toby Turner and her time with him. Okay, so.... You've been raped and abused and you decide the best thing to do is go to Tumblr for justice? You don't post something on social media for justice, you do it for vengeance, you want justice, you got to the police which ExeoInfinte pointed out with his two cents on the matter. April also shared a screenshot of her and Toby's conversation, I mean it has to be true right? But if you look online there's iPhonetextgenerators which don't take a second to find, holy fucking shit...can these message be forged, umm yeah, possibly.

Secondly, April discussed in her Tumblr post that she had lots of Emails between like hundreds and thousands with Toby, well why not screenshot those, evidence that would of been more viable for your case? It doesn't tell me anything or back up...it's so ambiguous and shitty. The screencaps came out to public eye when she was accused of lying,so there's that. 

Now the phrase 'rape culture is real' after something happens like this, that's annoying. As soon as someone like this say they are raped on social media, it annoys the crap out of me because instantaneously hate is thrown at this guy, abuse and his videos are now going to have dislikes, hate comments, he's going to get abused on Twitter. If we were a rape culture, wouldn't we say some things like "oh you probably asked for it" a rape culture would be inciting rape, not defending it we get angry and disgusted by the fact rape happens,  but unjustly people abuse people and use the phrase 'Guilty till proven innocent' with rape, cut that shit out. There's always the chance he is actually innocent. People should always take a step back and make their own opinion of the matter don't instantly believe either side, be smart about it. There's tons of people who are actually innocent from being accused of being a rapist, paedophile and the abuse could cause them to commit suicide. Again I'm not saying Toby is innocent or guilty or that these women are lying. I'm just looking at it from an outside perspective because until there is evidence it's only a screenshot which could be fake, a Tumblr post and videos from both parties. 

Kim Kardashian, you are a piece of shit.

Yep, I said it...and it feels great, empowering and electrifying. You name it, I felt it...unless sexual, I didn't go that far, Jesus. Now it's easy to say she's a piece of shit and not add anything onto that, but this has been building up over the years. Normally, I wouldn't care but after the latest nude photo and her response to the hatred, I felt it was about time I had my say.

Firstly, you are famous because you fucked some guy called Ray J? you don't want people to bring that up, well how else would you talk about how to rose to fame in your future autobiography...it wasn't magic, oh no...it was not. Well, I mean, you might of called the video magic. Oops. The great thing about the internet is that when your kid turns into a teenager and is watching porn, he will discover that video, isn't that great...who's that? Oh, that's my mum...

Secondly, Keeping up with The Kardashians...what the fuck is that? Why does there even need to be a show about what you're doing? when what you're up to is in every news article, Facebook news feed and trending every fucking week.

North West, I love that...NORTH WEST, you decided to name your kid North West. I mean the name North is pretty cool, but when you have the surname West, yeah...no. Don't do that, why? That's not going to be taken the piss out of at all when he goes to school, nope "Which ways our class North? *punk sniggers to himself* - But the name is a sign, it's a sign of the direction you should keep going and going,  until you find a rocket ship, get into that and head directly into the sun. Harsh, maybe? But I would never mean it, just a joke...or is it? Any ways...

Furthermore, the nude picture, honestly at first it didn't bother me, it was more your response and of course it was on International Women's Day nonetheless, you questioned how you're not a role model and also stated how you're a mother, there's lots of Mum's Kim in the world, not all of them are good ones. Back to the point, of being a role model...Kim, you are not a role model because, one you may be  'comfortable' in your body, but it's surgically enhanced, the message I personally think that sends to women is  "oh, I don't like my body,  let's surgically enhance it". Nope, women (and men) have their own flaws in and on their body, but they deal with them...nobody is perfect, so why try to make perfection, force it...to me that says, beautiful modified fake body, also fake on the inside.

Another point was Chloe Moretz, you replied to her in a very smug way. As if to say, who the hell are you...Well Kim, I tell you Chloe Moretz is a successful actor, someone who actually worked their way into the industry, took auditions, rehearsed lines. She's a role model to women. Back to the point with you going into the sun when if you were to blow up in the sun, actually I should say melt with all the plastic on your body...what would people say - oh yeah she was the one who wrote th...she sung tha...she acted in tha....she was the one who fucked that guy and it went viral, oh yeah that's her and named her son after a direction, poor kid.

Yes, your family was rich before you became famous because of your father, why was he rich...oh yeah, he was lawyer who defended the murderer O.J simpson and kept him out of prison for murder, until eventually he was actually prosecuted. It get's better and better.

I don't know who I hate more Donald Trump or you...

I could probably write an essay on Kanye, but in short he sounds paranoid all the time, I actually think he needs help.

I'm done. I'm out. Goodbye.

It's a been a while since the last post - that's the title, good start.

I would have some lame excuse for being occupied, fighting crime, saving the world but not tonight. As of now I am actually quite busy with exam revision and watching Daredevil the marvel series, I mean umm...no, but seriously I have no decent excuse, I would say writers block but I'm not a writer - wouldn't even class myself as a blogger or a decent one (I laughed at that, it's sad I know). Does anyone actually read this apart from me? *cue crickets* That's what I thought. So as of late, I've been back at University getting back into the exercise routine more regular from Easter, but at Univeristy I don't jog, not this time around anyway, just working on strength, the summer is for jogging. This University year is almost over and it's kind of scary if I'm hones to how quick it goes. For those who have finished sixth form or college will be like me and wonder where the time has gone, but it's not always good to wish for that time back as that's just the current time wasted. 

So that's University covered, nothing more to say about it apart from meeting new people, who have become good friends and will make the next year more enjoyable, I finish in just under a month now and it's like I can't wait for the summer, hoping for a part- time job but the main thing is spending time with people I barely got to spend time with throughout the University year unless it was half term, I really do miss my friends when I come here, it's not that I don't like my friends here or the people here, it's just a lot of my friends are family to me I would literally fight every corner for them, stand by them and not to be to soppy they literally are everything to me and one day we'll be married, I don't want to think about that right now and it'll be sooner than we think and we'll get to hang out but not freely like we can now, as much as we would protest to the other half they're the ones who we will spend the rest of our lives with and the majority time will be spent with them, it's just life, part of growing up. I do question where the time goes a lot, it baffles me how I'm not a teenager playing on my xbox, fishing, having all the energy in the world, seeing my friends in school while being nagged to do our top button up. 

Ah man, nostalgia half kicked in when I was talking to one of my oldest friends Matt, he played a song by Nickelback and it just reminded us of all the times we used to stay up all night on the Xbox, go fishing, the first time we got properly drunk around his on his birthday, to think that was four years ago now. A lot of the time in my mind I always think am I an adult? hell, I don't feel like it. It's nice to think back sometimes puts things into perspective of how friendships started, why relationships ended and so on. 

I was on the phone to one of my other good friends well I had two phone calls earlier, but I'll start with the second, she had her birthday yesterday and we was talking about love life's, both a bit hopeless at the moment, I won't share more than that but yeah and she gave me a great piece of advice which I know I won't forget "How do you expect others to love you, if you don't love yourself" and it made me think I am too hard on myself, really I am, but it was nice to be able to get that kind chance to reflect on myself and go well she's right. 

The first conversation was with my bestie it was general chatting and catching up which I love doing with her as I find her a lot more interesting than me and has much more of a (how would I say it)...energetic personality ( see hard on myself ). Like most people you don't really see that until you get to know them well, I couldn't ask more from her when it comes to being there and knowing how to make me laugh, it's a good honest friendship, like most but with it's bonuses that bestfriends have. 

It's come to mind lately that sometimes the single life can suck but I've learnt to deal with that and I'm just looking forward to the summer and making most of the life I have really, face every day like it's your last is what I've been thinking lately. 

Liam

Also Daredevil and Gotham the series are amazing! 

 

Lost

I didn't intend to write this post, but I feel if I don't I won't sleep well like I haven't done for the past days because it's been itching in my mind and I would talk to friends or family about it, but they've heard it before it's not something that happened recently about four years ago now. As Easter approaches. This isn't a post for attention, it's a post to get things off my chest, without being too specific.

From year four to year eleven I had this best friend who I trusted with my life, I had other friends too who were close like Matt, Jess, Tommy all three good friends in primary school and middle, now and many more along the way in secondary school. This friend was someone I had a lot of good memories with and could talk about anything, felt like it was going to be a friend for life no reason to believe other wise.

In year 10 and part of 11 I think? he dated a girl who was within the friend group at the time and they dated for a year or so and it was one of those relationships where he didn't like her talking to any other girls, but the guy friends like me didn't really see it to be honest just knew he was a bit clingy...well a lot. The relationship ended and it caused a lot of friction as he was accused of being forceful and at the time I didn't believe it, how could I, he was my best friend, I just thought ah she probably just wants to gain attention or something naive like that. Time went on and he then went on to date a family member of mine, which I wasn't okay with it caused me and this family member not to talk for a while and me and him not to talk for a good while, I eventually came around and started talking to him again we were fine, it was a bit weird but I adjusted.

They broke up, my mum said she didn't want my friend coming around any more I thought fair enough, so I made sure of it, a week later we camped under a over pass bridge, the ones that crossed over the top of the dual carriageways and there was a bushy area you could hear the cars as I barely slept on one of those crap mats that go under the sleeping bag acting as a mattress, more just a pain in the ass really. We left early hours of the morning, this friend helped me with my tent and that was the last time I saw him before I knew. A week before my mum and this family member plus some others wanted to talk in the kitchen about this friend and they refused to let me in the kitchen and I was annoyed, I wanted to know.

So after the camping trip I was sitting down on my Xbox, and my Mum came in the room sat down and told me my best friend forced himself on this family member, she asked if I was okay, I just wanted to be left alone. So much anger and rage felt that point, every good memory with this friend diminished into nothing, dust. At this point as the title indicates I felt lost... I mean who could I have talked to at this point I felt no one really because this guy was my best friend I talked to him about everything he helped me become confident and not be so hard on myself how could I trust this advice. The only thing I wanted to do was cause damage to him, it was the point of anger that I felt if I put my fist in his face it would go through his skull and out the other side, the unhealthy type of anger.

Eventually the police got involved, but that did nothing  the second time he was accused but no charge, walks free and still goes around now. I saw him around town a couple of times since then and I wanted to do something but I knew, I'd wreck my future I'd get charged with some kind of assault charge while he walked away after two accounts of rape, how fucked up is society?

It took a while I started to put my trust in people again, it was a hard thing to do but people were always there since it happened it just was hard for me to trust people, because the person I trusted most hurt me in more ways than imaginable - it changed me, it made me realise that you have to be careful who you trust no matter what. It's even effected relationships with people, I just became scared of becoming hurt. I wanted to talk to him again ask him why but he was a liar, a pathological one when we were friends he would deny obvious things even if everyone else knew it wasn't true, so why would he admit such a thing, I honestly think something was wrong with this person as if he didn't know what he did, there was always something about him that gave off that vibe.

Now I have the best friends I could ask for and new ones at University, my best friends at home mean everything to me, it's like another weird family put together and I hope we always are friends, they helped me get through dark times and I hope I have gave them the same back . So to all close friends who do read this, thank you truly without you I am nothing. They made me realise that some hard situations you can never forget and may still hurt at times but you learn to deal with them better along the way as time passes.

Liam -

Why did you say yes to the Latte for pudding, it's 9PM, you won't sleep! [Technology] Part 1 Mobiles and Consoles.

Probably the fastest growing invention, always ever changing and sometimes I can't even keep up with it, today I saw that IKEA have made sofa's that come with wireless phone chargers - we don't even have to move any more, next it comes with an inbuilt coffee machine and a tube for the loo there for your Netflix needs or maybe console needs. 

I was thinking to myself the other day how far technology has come even in my short 20 years, from playing the NES to having a console that has wireless internet with access to games, with the choice of not even having to buy them physically just have them downloaded, YouTube millions of videos created with so many different variety's of entertainment and experiences at our fingertips and Netflix movies and series to binge watch, binge watching when I was younger would of been DVD's or video tapes stacked, now it's all there. 

Mobile phones for me it came from having the mobile where Snake was on the phone and the battery lasted for ages, then a few years go the mobiles start to have colour on them, then it gets a bit crazier with the Sony Ericsson phase I had about three, with the ability to have music on your phone - then it gets a bit more crazier with the iPhone, the iPhone apps at the touch of a button then it kind of just exploded from there with new iPhones, touch screen phones and many different apps. Apps that now have in game purchases so you can cheat to go ahead of people, clever I'll give them that. Phones Camera's just get better, with Camera's being just as good as ones you can buy in the shop but not totally the stage of professional camera's but perhaps soon. I can now grab my windows phone watch Netflix, BBC iPlayer, Skype a friend. In so little time technology evolved to more than some people can even comprehend. Being able to ask the app Siri on the iPhones how to get somewhere or what something is by voice command then it searches for you.

Consoles now that is one that has changed dramatically in the past 30 years or so, from having 2D games with text based dialogue like the original Zelda games with the NES to eventually moving to 3D, the PS1 is a great example of the change games having voice actors, more depth to story and eventually evolving to PS2 which saw improvement in graphics, dialogue, story such as Grand Theft Auto  San Andreas one of the most popular games on the PS2, having that free roam ability was amazing, bored of doing so many missions why not go around shooting the place up or customizing your car. Xbox saw the Halo series come about, which will always be one of my favourite series due to playing a lot with my cousin when I was younger, still on-going to just  question where will they take it next? -- but not too much detail on that, maybe another blog. Next the Xbox 360 and PS3 wireless controllers, the consoles that changed gaming forever being able to access online competitive games easier, party chat with friends, gain achievements and trophies for the progress. These consoles saw Call of Duty in a whole new aspect, online. The multiplayer had various games modes, with kill streaks, then Zombies came along in World at War being able to survive waves and waves of zombies with friends. MW2 then stepping it up again with customised killsteaks with the highest being the NUKE 25 kills, game over. It was the bragging rights on the game. MW2 saw the increase of quickscoping, trick shotting clans, to explain a trick shot... one 'simple' one was doing a 360 degrees jump of a building then no-scoping (not aiming down the scope to shoot) someone. Game commentaries on YouTube, when YouTube and Gaming started to become one, with montages of sniping, across the map throwing knife kills. Then Black ops came making it possible to record clips and making them into a montage so you could prove to your friends or clan that you hit that shot if you didn't have recording gear or that amazing killstreak. But these consoles weren't just revolutionary for their games they came with apps like BBC iPlayer, ITV Player, the very popular Netflix and many different types of streaming. There's so much more I can say about these consoles like the Kinect with the Xbox or the Nintendo Wii with Sensor controllers playing tennis with the swing of the arm and a controller. Games then had DLC which was extra's to the game such as extra story or extra's to a character such as a bonus costume etc.

The next gen/current gen then changed this completely now we have consoles that can record clips by clicking the dashboard  button or by voice activation, being able to live stream from a console on Twitch or getting the best clips then uploading them straight to Youtube, having bigger memory storage so much more that these consoles will have to offer, introducing cloud storage more onto these consoles so everything is saved online, go on another xbox and download the account all the  saves are there again not on a memory card like PS2 and PS1. But yeah that was a mouthful and still not into the full depth of mobiles and consoles and how it changed for me.

Liam

Not Giving Up

From experience no matter how far you are into something could be exercise, a diet routine, saving money – anything really. It’s easy to give up, at any point right at the beginning or right into the thick of it and one of these things could be life.

Now this isn't necessarily giving up on living, but giving up on trying, which throughout parts of my teenager years I have felt, teenage relationships which make you feel as if your life is over when your first love dumps you – well it isn't, far from it...just feels like it.

But there may be people you may be friends with or know who end up wanting to give up on life and if you’re friends with them it could hit you badly, people who suffer from that kind of depression isn't something you can just chat to them make them feel better and everything will be okay, it’s to the point where they need professional help and the full support of family and friends. To me trying to help someone going through this when you’re not a professional or have any kind of experience is like being in an unbreakable glass box – there mind is the form of them just sitting there side on unaware of your presence and I see myself screaming at the top of my lungs, pounding away at the glass hitting again and again with an incredible amount of urgency trying to break through and just not being able to help them fully. It was at this point it made me realise that I can be there for them but for them to get truly through this, it had to be of their own choosing, it’s not as simple as giving a motivational speech and then everything is fine, it’s being patient and having the perseverance to get better. This friend, I hope they get better I truly do I want the best for them and want them to live a full life, happy.

Furthermore as previously said, giving up isn’t just about giving up on living, it can be not being motivated to get up early, not wanting to face people at school who give you harassment which could lead to depression big or small, but no matter happens there are people who care, never once think there are people who don’t care or don’t know what you’re going through as you may find if you talk to a friend or family member they may know exactly how you feel, again from previous experience talk to people never let these feelings of self-doubt take over your life – talk to someone, take that weight of your shoulders, don’t let it lead to something more than it is. Never wake up feeling like you’re not good enough, never let people think that you’re good enough. The moment you let people make you feel that way it just sets in your mind that you aren't. Throughout life people will doubt you and not believe in you but if you believe and put the hard work in, you can get up in the morning for that run or aim for that dream job. One piece of advice though this doesn't necessarily count for partners sometimes people aren't interested no matter how nice and caring you are, there’s time where you may have to move on as they may give you a restraining order, ask my soon to be wife Jennifer Lawrence. All jokes aside life is never a straight smooth road, it’s filled with bumps big and small (wow I feel so cheesy for using this as an example, I think it’s a metaphor not sure It’s 1am and my mind is not functioning to its maximum). Just to point out, I am no expert just advice and sharing from experience, my word is not the word of God, not that I believe in God but you get my meaning – hopefully.

Liam

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A serious matter, for once.

Politics.

I know, I know just the sheer sight of the word is displeasing and boring. Especially to people under the age of about 20, when people think politics  they think of the show on telly where they ramble on like Punch and Judy or it sounds like the turkey noises south park used to do on their older episodes when people were rambling on about pointless stuff.

But in the past year, it's taken the interest due to the difference between the higher and lower classes, it's absurd. We live in a capitalist country 'The rich get richer and the poor get poorer', makes communist sound great doesn't it? equal amount of wealth, well not exactly as communist countries are somehow worse even with it's motto. I don't see how it could ever be okay.

The part that hits home the most, tuition fee's 9,000 per year and when I tend to talk about this, the same argument comes along each time we only pay 9% a year and you only have to pay it when you're earning over 21,000 per year. Well, surely if you go to University the idea is that you want a job over 21,000 right? maybe 25-30 grand per year? that may just be me but even so it would only be just under 300 a year, doesn't sound like much with 30,000 pounds. But, it's a still debt we're paying for Education.

Education should be a right, not something we pay for now it's seems like University is a business a price tag the bit of tax doesn't hurt when paying for first and secondary schools or if University was the odd bit tax, on average a student comes out with 44,000 pounds worth of debt. 1/3 of those students go to a job that isn't related to their qualification.One of the reasons that the tuition fee's was increased was due to improve the teaching and this article provides an insight to how that's panned out - http://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/educationopinion/9767314/Why-tuition-fees-havent-improved-university-teaching.html- Now, don't get me wrong they're are some brilliant lecturers in University, but there's some that make a lot of students feel, I'm paying 9,000 each University a year for this and this is from personal experience in lecturers.

 Politicians are known for their false promises and one of them was not to increase the tuition fee's. Another reason that the increase was brought in was because we apparently can't afford to pay for the University's, on average there's 4.6 billion of tax avoiding...4.6 billion, that average will probably rise with the HSBC incident of the rich avoiding tax, so to say we can't afford it is absurd. Tax the rich and make them pay, we all pay tax so why for those who can afford it quite easily not have to pay it. One of those people avoiding tax for over two decades http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-31459067 a property investor has been caught red handed, sounds great doesn't it *buzzer sounds* WRONG! the property investor Mr Bloomfield wasn't even charged. One Rule For The Rich, Another For The Poor. 

I'd happily become a socialist, who believe in everything to be equal or at least fair. I could never really vote still haven't yet. And not voting doesn't do much unless the people not voting are willing to protest, protest and protest hard. See not voting for me can be a bit of problem with a sports management course, due to the industry, the dilemma is that the people currently in charge (David Cameron Conservatives) think that nothing is wrong with the sports industry and nothing has to be done, which would be wrong to think.

Personally it feels like the politicians just care about big corporations and I know I'm not the only one who feels that way.

Liam